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Loving Discipline: Stay Calm and Speak Softly

It took me many years of experience as a parent and Waldorf teacher before I learned a really important lesson.

I learned that when I really needed to get my message across to a child, it is much more effective to get down to the child’s level, look him in the eye, and speak in a quiet, calm voice.

When we yell, children (and adults!) tune us out. When emotions are flying high and voices are escalating, it can take a child by surprise to be spoken to in a tone close to a whisper. The child will stop what she’s doing to really hear what is being said.

We are adults. When children experience us as being in control of our emotions, they feel much more secure, even when their immature emotions are spiraling out-of-control. It is our job to keep calm and let children know that we are in control and able to help.

It’s not always easy to do with a screaming toddler or while a pair of siblings are pummeling each other, but it’s important to take a deep breath, stay focused in the present, and remind yourself that you are the adult, and that you are capable of responding calmly.

Wish I’d learned this when my own children were younger. I hope that many of you will learn this important lesson sooner than I did! It will absolutely result in more harmony—at home or in the classroom.

Peace,

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Do you have any discipline challenges, or tips to share? Please leave a comment!

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Sarah’s Invitation: A Weekly Candle Hour for Families

 

Earth Hour was observed two weeks ago on March 29, when millions of people agreed to turn off their lights for one hour from 8:30 to 9:30 p.m. local time.

This week on “Sunday with Sarah” I share my own experience participating in Earth Hour and have a proposal for you.

Click on the link above to view the video and let me know what you think!

Below are some of the photos submitted for our Earth Hour Photo Contest. Many thanks to all who participated and shared!

by Aimee Canterbury

Winning Photo by Aimee Canterbury

 

by Sarah Baldwin

Washing Dishes by Candlelight by Sarah Baldwin

 

Family Reading by Candlelight by Phyllis Meredith

Family Reading by Candlelight by Phyllis Meredith

 

Painting by Candle Light by Allison Pennell

Painting by Candle Light by Allison Pennell

 

Bedtime Reading - Earth Hour by Shel Frolich Tscherne

Bedtime Reading – Earth Hour by Shel Frolich Tscherne

 

Earth Hour - Family Togetherness by dreadpirateautumn via Instagram

Earth Hour – Family Togetherness by dreadpirateautumn via Instagram

What do you think of my idea? Ready to commit? Willing to give it a try? Think it’s nice idea, but impractical? Please let me know your thoughts (and share your own photos, if you’re so inspired!).

 

 

 

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Five Verses to Sing Through the Day with Children

 

Sing Through the Day!

After last week’s video in which I talked about the power of verses for easing transitions with children, I had many requests this week to share more verses.

So this week, here are five verses that can be sung during transition times throughout the day. I have printed the words to each below, and you can watch the video to learn the tunes.

And here is a link to an excellent article on how singing to children helps develop language skills. So sing, sing, sing through your days! (Even if you think you can’t.)

I hope you’ll be inspired to incorporate some of these into your days with children.

Good Morning Song

Good morning, dear earth
Good morning, dear sun
Good morning, dear resting stones
And beasts on the run
Good morning, dear flowers
And birds in the trees
Good morning to you, good morning to me!

Clean Up Time

Tick-tock goes the clock
What does it have to say?
Time for us to pick up our toys
and put them all away

(Can be repeated until all the toys are picked up and the room is tidy.)

Folding Laundry

Corner to corner
Meet and greet
Fold our cloth so nice and neat!

(As above, can be repeated until laundry is done.)

Meal Time

Blessings on the blossoms
Blessings on the roots
Blessings on the leaves and stems
Blessings on the fruit

(I always sang this twice with gestures.)

Good-Bye Song

Dear friends, goodbye
Dear friends, goodbye
Now is the time of day
When we all go our way
Dear friends, goodbye
Dear friends, goodbye
Go well and safely
Go well and safely
Go well and safely
Our love be ever with you

Thanks to all of you who shared your favorite verses, blessings, and prayers for children, many of which I’d never heard before. All were delightful. Please keep posting and sharing!

 

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